Inherent Friction
“If everyone’s on board, then you’re not leading change of any substance whatsoever.”
I recently came across this comment in something I was reading. It got me thinking.
It’s conventional to think that change rides within the vehicle of consensus. Leaders will look to communicate and gain agreement on a direction, action, or initiative before initiating the planned action. It’s a form of directive leadership but it expects to gain agreement with the idea that agreement equals ignition of the change.
The truth is that there is often unaddressed friction across any attempted change. Friction related to stopping old behavior or functions and replace them with new ways of doing or being. This reality of moving from a state of A to a state of B is at the core of change. Laying out the phases or steps of change is like reading the menu at a restaurant but cooking the food and delivering the food to the table is where the movement is, and that takes work. Change does not walk itself through the door. It is not simply spoken into existence.
Change requires traction to move forward, and traction takes friction at the point of surface contact. The practice of moving and affecting behaviors of people and culture share similar qualities to the laws of physics. Like physics, to keep friction points from overheating, the use of lubrication can facilitate gaining the benefits of friction while managing the heat generated by the movement. Change in organizational, team, or individual settings can benefit from forms of social lubrication. Those things that remove or reduce destructive friction but enable the right forms of friction for forward movement.
There are different ways to introduce social or psychological lubricants. Before you can design for that strategy, you must first realize change is a friction game and not a matter of agreement. It’s one thing to order a great burger but it’s another thing to get it from the menu to your plate.
Is Leading About You or Others?
One of the most common approaches to leadership looks much like the standard early education classroom in most any education environment. The bell rings, you take your seat, you are asked to focus on the tasks at hand, you plan and execute your work, you are held accountable for doing and showing your own work, and the bell rings again and you are released to then return the next day and do it all over again. The similarities between many corporate job experiences and the norms of a standard classroom experience are somewhat jolting.
One of the key dynamics at play in this scenario is the fact that we like patterns, those repeatable rhythms of life and work that help us anticipate and get a dose of certainty. We value predictability, repeatability and any system that can give us consistency.
When managers and leaders “run” their teams and organizations in this manner there are some unfortunate results. This modeled approach is the most recognizable and most easily rewarded in many organizations. It is characterized by relative clarity of results, who holds the power, and whose job it is to “fill the order”. It’s great factory work if you want it but it’s driven by a leadership view that is leader-centric at its core. The mission, the setup and the rewarded by the system around leaders, is to get more people to do more of the things that the leader will get rewarded for.
This kind of leadership is inside-out and is not developmentally focused on others. It’s driven by short term targets and an emphasis on individual accountability but also diminished collaboration. This approach is typically less performant and elicits a lot of churn and friction around people challenges. For better for worse, this is a common conventional flavor of leadership is still strongly entrenched today. After all, how else does one expect to get promoted? There is a component of vanity and ego in these kinds of environments.
A less conventional but arguably more successful alternative is the approach where leaders layer their efforts with a focus on others and elevating the performance and contribution of team members that are appropriately pointed to impactful outcomes. The success of leaders, team members, and organizations are amplified exponentially when leaders and managers organize their own role and their available power to enable those entrusted to their leadership. It also means that as a leader or manger you have to know how to shape and direct the kinetic power of the talent within your charge towards the right targets. This is often a dynamic equation to keep rebalancing as opposed to a static set it and forget it prescriptive approach. It means leaders must be strong in reading ever changing situations, adapting, communicating, and influencing others through other methods than power and control.
One of the challenges is that organizations cross up our vocabulary around leaders, managers, people, and the work. Maybe people are to be “led”, and work is to be “managed”. Not the other way around. Often, we conflate or simply invert those definitions. It is common that organizations frequently incentivize the conventional factory method without realizing what it may be costing their organization across performance, work product quality, and talent development levels. If you are a leader or manager, you have an opportunity to make an intentional choice about how your “run” or enable talent you are stewarding.
Which model does your organization reward?
What type of leader do you strive to be?
What will best help your own success take off?
A Matter of Intangibility
Whether talking through individual or team performance issues, challenges around navigating transitions, or getting clear on effective leadership development, these growth journeys share some common ground.
Becoming and contributing your best in all of these areas can fall into one foundational definition of performance: “Performance is measurement of developmental growth and contribution potential reached by an individual or team.”
Moving well beyond hitting the highest score on a team, pulling in the top sales numbers, or climbing through layers of promotions, the best measure of performance is gaining ground expanding contribution and impact. There are plenty of top scorers, sales plaques, and updated business cards out there but performers that drive true value and make things and others around them better are more elusive.
To be brutally honest, many organizations, leaders, and managers struggle to enable this version of performance for two primary reasons. First, the elements of contribution and growth-based performance are not built into common postindustrial age business and management models and consequently are not incentivized, let alone understood. Second, this approach is more difficult to measure and consequently more challenging to observe or reward. It takes focusing on the intangibles that amplify performance instead of the direct external indicators.
Below is a working framework that can be used to bring this approach closer to the surface for the practice of designing and building environments that activate around contribution and growth driven performance. Give it a try when working through leading and managing people, teams, and organizations and see if it changes the depth and quality of performance across your sphere of influence.
6 Elements of Performance
Current State
How are thing currently going?
Orientation
Is the path forward clear?
Opportunities
What is the ease or difficulty typical experiences?
Optimize
What are the ways to become better?
Enhance
Where are the additional areas for contribution?
Future
Where can there be growth towards something new?
Don’t Let Them
It’s so easy to let others articulate and narrate who you are. When others are allowed to frame your identity and your contribution, it’s usually limited by labels and thinking in singular terms. He’s an electrician or she’s a layer.
An additional challenge is that we are unsure of how to project ourselves and that when a story is left blank, others will tend to fill it in. Don’t let them!
It’s fair to find it challenging to tell your own story well from inside your own skills but it’s really the most valuable perspective.
We are all more than any one thing. Most of us fulfill and function in a variety of roles and identities. Even better than having a valuable way to project your identity and value to others is the confidence and solid bearing of direction it provides for you in your own mind.
Define a simple but powerful persona brand that is your own elevator pitch for yourself. Invest in your own branding and messaging or someone else will do it for you.
If you were to work out an equation similar to the process for creating a product or brand, it might look something like this.
“I am a [ ] who does [ ] through [ ]. “
“I do this through [ ] and [ ].”
“The result is [ ].”
“My approach combines [ ] and has the benefit of [ ].”
Bottom Line - Short Version: “I provide [X-Service] for [Y-Need], generating [Z-Benefit].”
Define yourself and you define your path. Self-lead your way towards the career and life you want and deserve. Don’t let your brand get hijacked by pirates whose only incentive is to plunder, not promote. You are the captain of your own journey.
Cool Change
We all say we want change, but we also find it uncomfortable when it finally comes our way. We simply have a natural affinity to the familiar and the predictable or to whatever gives us certainty. We don’t like the unknown. It makes for a slippery embrace.
Some thoughts on keeping your cool amidst change:
A change is a transition. This means that you are in the process of walking out one door and through another in some form or fashion. It’s a process and an experience, so give yourself grace and patience. Remember that it is a ride that has a beginning and an end. It is not endless.
What is new will be different than the old. Change is fundamentally a positive thing but recognize that it will also come with uncertainty and anxiety that will be uncomfortable and possibly feel a little less safe. But that new place of change will eventually become familiar where you can establish as sense of command and increased confidence.
The “old” often has a sense of being fixed in place where the new can seem less secure and a bit wobbly. The new will have a different sense of pressure but it’s also a container for fresh opportunity. Usually, you don’t feel ready for this but it’s likely that you are, and more than capable of doing the new thing than you think you are.
Exiting your “old” will be its own thing. It will take energy and the management of your own emotions, so just know it will be a spend but also ok. Keep in mind, regardless of what array of variables show up, your path is your path and it belongs to no one else.
Truth Over Grift
Some people may be seduced into thinking truth does not matter, so let’s gut check this topic for minute, for the sake of our collective mental health and success.
First, there are fundamentals that foster healthy human and societal interactions, generating healthy hopeful futures.
Positively impactful leaders are teachers, generous givers, investors, collaborators, problem solvers, and serve others by pouring their efforts into life giving community. That is the picture of leadership success for the benefit of all of us, drawing on the best of us.
Second, in the face of the days that “good” leadership is portrayed as narcissistic, confusion creating, self-serving, in love with its own voice, and a generator for divisiveness over wholeness, remember you don’t have to take the bait. You don’t have to fall victim to the grift.
This grift often shows up as a leader who fabricates root causes for given or fake concerns and intentionally generates anxiety. They present solutions but these solutions are actually problem amplifiers. The grift is based on inverting the reality to manipulate others and imbue power to them. The “solutions” are destruction in disguise and intentionally create confusion bonding “followers” to the leader promising they can fix it all, if you just give over control to them.
What to do?
Start with being broadly informed in order to be insightful.
No singular sources of information and ensure your sources are not opinion and media oriented, explicitly designed to generate money via your attention.
Be on your guard for fake and false presentations.
Shine light on any deceit with confidence.
False leaders eventually fail, and the slippery con will be ultimately exposed when misrepresentations fall away, and true agendas are exposed.
In order to limit the damage and trauma that is left in the wake behind toxic leadership, buffer and protect those that are vulnerable. Follow up with caring deeply for others in community through all forms of advocacy. Action absorbs anxiety and is the best antidote to worry.
You can spot the difference between a con and honest engagement because the con will prove to be lifeless, dying vine with no positive outcomes. On the side of authenticity, it will be vibrant and bear the sweet fruit benefits. Toxic leaders generate fear driven through untruths while healthy leaders choose to create freedom and peaceful community. Pay attention to which direction the indictors are pointing, and you will have a better chance of avoiding the grift and false leadership theatre.
Force Multipliers
Teams are made up of people with talents, skills, and capabilities. Some of these characteristics overlap but they also have varied distribution, meaning individuals possesses variances and that is a very good thing.
Each person is a human toolbox equipped to perform certain tasks, duties, or roles. Also, each person on a team is a contribution multiplier. Every member of a team is a human with unique emotions, perceptions, aspirations, with varied paths to contribution.
Teams full of diverse and capable talent do not need leaders who supervise or give direction and then inspect like a factory floor supervisor. They do need great leaders of teams who are force multipliers. These types of leaders understand how to effectively work toward enabling, equipping, and creating a performant system of people. Through clarity of vision, orientation, strategic plans, and execution they setup performance levers and amplifiers for the people they lead.
Performance oriented teams respond best to leaders who understand how to balance work targets, skills, people, and approaches with a combination of working EQ, people intelligence, and soft skills deployed to communicate with impact. They find ways that amplify team member contribution, generate imagination, and tap into potential delivering the right innovations and change.
Clean Push for 2025
Welcome to 2025!
I tend to be less of a fan of resolutions for the new year. Resolutions often seem to be a list of aspirational yet broken promises to ourselves. That is generally not a very attractive start to whatever growth or success you want to experience in the upcoming year. I suggest a different picture to hold in our minds.
If you have ever watched Olympic bobsledding, you quickly understand the success of an entire run down the course starts at the top. The strength, coordination, and timing of the first few steps of the team pushing the sled at the top of the hill dictates how well the entire rune will go. Then, after that big initial tightly choreographed push, the ride becomes all about the navigation of tight corners at high speed without creating friction.
The cleaner the push at the top, the faster the run. Also, ironically, the faster the speeds, the more challenging it is to control a friction free run, avoiding brushing the walls or worse, losing control and rolling the sled over at 90 miles per hour.
The push, the speed, the navigation, the reduced friction, and the confidence and courage to “let it ride” are key to the most competitive results. The scores highlight competition between teams but when you carefully listen to the team members discuss their performance, you notice something. At every step of execution from how they push, load the sled, break or steer, they are competing with themselves, looking to achieve their personal best for every stage of the run. It’s a team sport with an intense component of individual performance. When strong individual performances come together, the end result can be a multiplier for elite execution and results.
What does this have to do with 2025? I like to think that the January of a new year is like that push at the top of the hill. It sets the stage, sets expectations and aspirations, takes courage and is where you get to build your best momentum for the best results at the bottom. It’s a beautiful picture where every run is full of potential and opportunity.
When you show up for your 2025 run, your preparation, your mindset, and your execution of all you have learned and practiced previously comes together to drive your own personal and professional growth towards great results at the bottom of the course. Better yet, you can have great runs and not so great runs but are still able to get better and keep growing.
I think this makes for a better strategy than the classic approach to resolutions and depending on willpower to magically help you accomplish your best. For 2025, dare to put yourself in the driver’s seat.